Why swing?
As you all know, we are reading into this topic to determine if it is a lifestyle we want to be a part of. I have gotten some really good feedback on the past article about swinging so I thought I would put another one up. This one is more like a “Beginner’s Guide.”
I found this great website and I recommend anyone else looking in to the lifestyle visit it. There is also a ton of other advice as well from different kinds of dating to chat rooms and dating ideas.
These are the things to think about when considering swinging:
1) Think About Why.
This is a pretty obvious one for me and we have been doing a lot of that. For us, we want to try new things and keep a healthy relationship but the author mentions that swinging is probably not something you should do just to keep your significant other around if they don’t want to be there. Swinging involves a lot of trust so if you have any issues with that, I wouldn’t recommend it either.
2) Consider Fantasies.
You can come up with some pretty crazy things here and probably find someone else in the swinging community with the same fantasies but this can also be as simple as just watching others or inviting just one other person into the mix. I also think this is a bullet point you can come back to as a couple. I think the first time we try a sex club, we will just watch and see what the comfort level is like. Once we determine if we are ready for the next step, we can determine what we want out of the experience.
3) Talk About No-Nos.
Somes couples are fine with letting each other out of their site and sleeping with other people. Others may want to be in the same room and have a no kissing policy. Sit down and decide what you are both comfortable with and what doesn’t work. Once you get there, you can change up the rules as you become more comfortable but make sure and always talk to your SO first.
4) Construct New Identities.
I think this is a good idea. I couldn’t see myself talking to someone else’s husband about work or something while his wife goes down on my man. That would just be weird. So the less personal information you can give, the better. Plus, it adds to the fun 
5) Use the Internet.
I have mentioned it before but this is where www.sdc.com comes in. It is an adult dating site that allows you to chat with other swingers in your area. The more people you talk to, the more comfortable you will get and the more parties you get invited to. There are many other sites out there as well but this is one of my favorites.
6) Choose the Right People.
Sit down as a couple and determine what your preferences are. It is a good idea to view pictures online of people you plan on meeting up with first then maybe start with a casual drink before you jump right it. That should give you plenty of time to determine if you are attracted enough to take the next step.
7) Look into Clubs.
More than likely the online dating site you use can connect you to the clubs in your area. If you are new to it, you may want to look up rules of the club before you go so you have a better idea of what to expect.
8) Find a Party.
Again, the more people you get to know, the more parties you have a chance of getting an invite to. Use the dating site.
9) Keep it on the Down Low.
Respect other’s privacy and they will respect yours.
10) Enjoy Yourselves.
Enough said. Take it slow and remember why you both decided to do this in the first place.
Source: http://www.loveproxy.com/swingers/beginners-guide-to-swinging/
I’m reading a new book
I haven’t actually read a book of this type but after reading the introduction, I am sure it will not be the last one I read. We bought it on Amazon for less than ten dollars so I thought I would give it a shot. This book contains several erotic stories about women’s fantasies. It includes women who liked to be dominated as well as the ones that like to take control of their man. In the comments, a buyer mentions that it has a story about all kinds of fetishes so there should be a story in there for everyone.
An online article suggests that if you are new to the erotica scene, this is the perfect book for you. So I will write a review when I am done and let you all know what I think!
REVIEW: Very Hot Natural Sex
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I found this video on RedTube under top rated. It starts out with a couple meeting their babysitter. The husband, Jay, tells her the kids are sleeping and she tells them to enjoy dinner. Shortly after they leave, she is on the phone with her boyfriend telling hin to come and keep her company.
This video is about 34 minutes long and has a decent story line. The girl is a little too young for my liking but she really makes the passion in this video believable. Right after he starts ripping her clothes off, she sits on his face and that was probably one of our favorite parts of the movie. I immediately looked at my man and told him I was going to do that to him later. In which he replied “Please do!”
There was a good amount of dirty talk in the video and they also kept eye contact a lot of the time. Those are two of my favorite things to watch because it makes the sex seem more passionate and less scripted. I love, love, love that the guy kept grabbing her hand to hold it then give it a gentle kiss. I am a hopeless romantic..even with porn.
Beware ladies and gents, this girl is a screamer. I kept turning my volume up to hear what they were saying and then had to turn it down when she screamed. That got me thinking, how were the kids still sleeping?
Most of the video was sex without breaks in between and incorporated many positions. It ends with them both coming and the guy kissing all over the girl. The parents come home, ask her how the night went and the movie is over.
REVIEW: The “Rabbit” Vibrator
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I think the first time I had ever heard of this toy was on Sex and the City. It was appealing to me because it is pink, has pearls and looks like a party. An all around girly bundle of pleasure. So, I decided to give it a try.
When I turned it on for the first time, I was a little overwhelmed because there were buttons at the bottom that not only turned on the vibrations but also rotated the shaft. However, the first time I turned it on inside of me, I was incredibly pleased.
The most important feature on this toy besides how happy it will make you, is that it is completely phthalates free and is non porous and easy to clean. That means it doesn’t harbor bacteria so you can rest assured that you aren’t inserting any unwanted germs into your lady parts. The shaft gyrates while the beads rotate at various speeds. The bunny clit stimulator vibrates at different speeds also which you can control by rotating the dial. The clit stimulator got me off rather quickly and was my favorite thing about the toy. For a quick O, I would just use the rabbit to get off without inserting the shaft. The price is very reasonable for this toy and there are many variations of it, including different sizes and colors.
This is a great toy to use alone but if you want to include your man (and you should) he can use it on you as well. It stimulates both the G spot and the clitoris for a very pleasurably experience.
If you want to try it out, you can purchase it here.
Romance and Kids
Children are such an amazing gift and many married couples decide they want to add a few little ones to their family. What often happens however, is that romance can get lost in translation. It is very important to me that when we have kids, we can still be us. So I like reading about what other couples do to keep their sex life active even after having children.
I read an article that gives some really great pointers about how to keep the romance alive after the kids arrive. The author places a big emphasis on planning ahead. Schedules fill up quickly with all of the kid’s events so planning ahead will help ensure that you are making time for each other and not having to worry about anything else.
Make sure to have a date night at least once a month. If you and your partner can manage once a week, this is even better. Ask friends and family members or even your older children if they will help with babysitting, and make sure to go somewhere romantic. Place a “we will not talk about the children” rule on the table and have fun. Think about some of your more romantic dates or memories: This will help set the mood.
She also suggests using code words around the kids to let your husband or wife know how you are feeling, planning romantic getaways at least once and year and of course, keeping open lines of communication.
Source: http://www.life123.com/
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