Why swing?

Written by Her on January 25, 2012 in Articles

As you all know, we are reading into this topic to determine if it is a lifestyle we want to be a part of. I have gotten some really good feedback on the past article about swinging so I thought I would put another one up. This one is more like a “Beginner’s Guide.”

I found this great website and I recommend anyone else looking in to the lifestyle visit it. There is also a ton of other advice as well from different kinds of dating to chat rooms and dating ideas.

These are the things to think about when considering swinging:

1) Think About Why.

This is a pretty obvious one for me and we have been doing a lot of that. For us, we want to try new things and keep a healthy relationship but the author mentions that swinging is probably not something you should do just to keep your significant other around if they don’t want to be there. Swinging involves a lot of trust so if you have any issues with that, I wouldn’t recommend it either.

2) Consider Fantasies.

You can come up with some pretty crazy things here and probably find someone else in the swinging community with the same fantasies but this can also be as simple as just watching others or inviting just one other person into the mix. I also think this is a bullet point you can come back to as a couple. I think the first time we try a sex club, we will just watch and see what the comfort level is like. Once we determine if we are ready for the next step, we can determine what we want out of the experience.

3) Talk About No-Nos.

Somes couples are fine with letting each other out of their site and sleeping with other people. Others may want to be in the same room and have a no kissing policy. Sit down and decide what you are both comfortable with and what doesn’t work. Once you get there, you can change up the rules as you become more comfortable but make sure and always talk to your SO first.

4) Construct New Identities.

I think this is a good idea. I couldn’t see myself talking to someone else’s husband about work or something while his wife goes down on my man. That would just be weird. So the less personal information you can give, the better. Plus, it adds to the fun

5) Use the Internet.

I have mentioned it before but this is where www.sdc.com comes in. It is an adult dating site that allows you to chat with other swingers in your area. The more people you talk to, the more comfortable you will get and the more parties you get invited to. There are many other sites out there as well but this is one of my favorites.

6) Choose the Right People.

Sit down as a couple and determine what your preferences are. It is a good idea to view pictures online of people you plan on meeting up with first then maybe start with a casual drink before you jump right it. That should give you plenty of time to determine if you are attracted enough to take the next step.

7) Look into Clubs.

More than likely the online dating site you use can connect you to the clubs in your area. If you are new to it, you may want to look up rules of the club before you go so you have a better idea of what to expect.

Find a Party.

Again, the more people you get to know, the more parties you have a chance of getting an invite to. Use the dating site.

9) Keep it on the Down Low.

Respect other’s privacy and they will respect yours.

10) Enjoy Yourselves.

Enough said. Take it slow and remember why you both decided to do this in the first place.

 

 

 

Source: http://www.loveproxy.com/swingers/beginners-guide-to-swinging/

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